Dating Success: As you Grow, Make Sure Your “Game” Grows With You
Friday, March 13th, 2009
We have all heard of, and many of us have dealt with, the issues inherent with a mid life crisis. It can come without warning and seems to differ in severity and length in men of all ages. Turning 30 can be a point where many men get that feeling that they are hitting a wall. That everything they have done, strived for and experienced is all beginning to change. There are a number of feelings and consequences that you can be struck with at this crucial time in your life and it can definitely alter the way you approach the dating scene or the beginning of relationships.
Many of us pride ourselves on our dating ability or our ability to head out to the bar or club and meet intriguing single ladies of all kinds. This is a game for all men and is something every man takes part in and enjoys within some stage of their life. The feelings that seem to hit hard when men turn 30 can alter this perspective and change the way you look at and analyze your own “game”. A number of men choose to ignore the fact they are getting older and continue to hit the bars and try to attract girls in all the same ways. The truth is, you are getting older, you are changing and you have to adapt your game accordingly if you still want to be able to pull in phone numbers and meet new people at the same pace you did in your early twenties.
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Think about it, you have probably changed the car your drive at least a couple of times, you’ve changed your clothes, probably changed your job, now its time to change the way you approach and attract women. You aren’t the same man you were in college and you need to act accordingly. Sure there are evident physical changes but you need to change your mental outlook as well. Make a positive change and adapt to new situations and you are going to have a lot better change of staying relevant in the jungle that is the dating world. Continue to learn and be sure to act in a way that is relatable to your current age.
When you began your attempt to conquer the dating world, you were doing it to obtain a certain status. Attract the best and most amounts of women you could and you would be the envy of all your college roommates. Now your friends that once cheered you on have all started to get hitched and settle down. The game is not the same; you won’t get respect any more for the number of girls you met. It’s no longer about quantity but it’s become solely about quantity. Act accordingly. Do not try to portray an image of someone younger or get caught up in lies. Not only will this not work, but it won’t get you any respect, from women, your friends or your colleagues. No longer is it appropriate for you to act like you did in college. Portray the person that you are, be truthful, mature and respectful and you will become a lot more intriguing to women and have a much improved chance of meeting the right kind of woman. You are older, you have changed and so have the women around you. Adjust yourself accordingly and you can avoid some of the perils that come hand in hand with getting older.
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